Pathways to peace (and less worry)

Quick: How many things can you think of that rob you of peace and cause you to worry? I’ll give you a minute to think about it.

If you’re like most, you quickly run out of fingers and toes thinking of all the worrisome thoughts that make you anxious. Kids (whether minors or adults), aging parents, job security, marital strife, money woes, pending home repairs, Friday afternoon rush hour, the car’s transmission making that funny noise: all these compound our concern. Not to mention national politics, tensions overseas, new strains of disease, fluctuating economic markets, people who say “supposably” when they mean “supposedly” … all these amp up our anxiety and wind up our worry-ometer.

Paul addresses our apprehensions in the letter he wrote to the church at Philippi. And his words carry added weight when we realize that he wrote them from a jail cell in Rome. Imprisoned for sharing the Gospel, this letter that emphasizes our joy and peace in the Lord speaks to us today nearly 2,000 years later.

In particular, Philippians 4:4-9 seems to outline a path to peace in the midst of, and in spite of, the worrisome world about us. If you follow these guidelines, “you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus” (v. 7). And “the God of peace will be with you” (v. 9).

Let’s take a look at these eight paths to peace.

ONE  Be joyful: “Always be full of joy in the Lord. I say it again—rejoice!” (v. 4). So, right off the bat, we have what seems to be an impossible command. How can we just turn on the joy when the happys just aren’t there? On the one hand, we shouldn’t ignore all those nonjoyful emotions—that’s where serious emotional problems can fester. But the research is interesting: Smiling helps boost your mood, increase happiness, and lower stress—even if you’re faking it. The next time you find your mood sinking, smile—and dwell on our amazing God and His attributes. And you’ll find peace in your heart.

TWO  Be considerate: “Let everyone see that you are considerate in all you do” (v. 5). In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to start getting short with others. We start focusing on ourselves, our needs, our wants, what we think we deserve. Turn that focus around and concentrate on the other person, their needs, their wants. And don’t forget to smile, which is contagious. I’ve found that when I take an interest in those around me and smile, it improves their mood and mine. To me, that’s what it means to be considerate.

THREE  Remember the Lord’s return: “Remember, the Lord is coming soon” (v. 5). The older I get, the faster time seems to fly. Wait, it’s Friday already? Wait, it’s almost May? Wait, it’s been how long since “Gangnam Style” was a thing? The days/weeks/months all run together. In the midst of this, we hear a command: Remember. Specifically, remember that the Lord is coming soon. Of course, we don’t know when. Could be in 100 years. But it could be tomorrow. It’s a reminder of our heavenly reward awaiting us.

FOUR  Replace worry with prayer: “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything” (v. 6). Someone once said that worry and prayer are two sides of the same coin; worry is anti-prayer. Max Lucado says, “No one can pray and worry at the same time.” Prayer has the ability to neutralize worry because we are putting our concerns in God’s hands. The problem is that we tend to take it right back from His hands after we pray! Thus, we need more prayer.

FIVE  Tell God your needs: “Tell God what you need …” (v. 6). Does God already know what we need? Of course. But there is healing and peace that comes when we tell Him and ask Him.

SIX  Be thankful: “… thank him for all he has done” (v. 6). There are a multitude of studies that show that gratitude improves our lives in many ways, including our health, our careers, and our social lives. The benefits of thankfulness are so well documented that many people recommend being intentional about writing down in a journal three positive things to be thankful for each evening. And for the Christian, we know the One we can extend our thanks to.

SEVEN  Be careful what you think about: “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise” (v. 8). The old maxim of garbage in, garbage out really is true. Or put another way: “Watch your thoughts, they become words; watch your words, they become actions; watch your actions, they become habits; watch your habits, they become character; watch your character, for it becomes your destiny” (source). I find that when I let too much negative or harmful talk into my head, whether from radio, tv, friends, etc., my thoughts get cloudy with a chance of depression. Peace comes from refocusing on the good, especially Scripture.

EIGHT  Apply what you’ve learned: “Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing” (v. 9). Knowledge without application is useless. Gaining more spiritual knowledge without putting it into practice is a recipe for misery. There is a peace that comes when we know we’ve been obedient to what God is showing us through His Word and His people. “Obedience is better than sacrifice” (1 Samuel 15:22). “Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it” (James 4:17).

Try one or more of these in the next few days and let me know if it helps to maintain your peace in a whirl of worry.

5 habits to better manage the storms of life

Life can be overwhelming at times, even scary. It’s a dangerous world we live in and no matter how good we are or how well we try to live our lives, storms will inevitably come. How do we make it through the storms of life?

We get some clues in Matthew 14:22-33 where Jesus walks on water to the disciples’ boat in the midst of a storm and then commands Peter to walk on water as well. In this account, we see how fear overwhelms us and how to counter that fear with five habits.

How fear overwhelms us:

ONE  Through the buffeting storms of life.

Matthew says they were a considerable distance from land when a storm came up, and the boat was “buffeted by the waves because the wind was against it” (Matthew 14:24 NIV). The storms of life come against us all. They are inevitable in this fallen world. You are either just coming out of a storm, currently in a storm, or about to go into a storm. In my mind, the storm could be illness, unemployment, family problems, difficult people, etc.

TWO  Through the unexpected horrors of life.

When Jesus came walking on the water, the disciples did not immediately recognize Him. They thought He was a ghost and they cried out in fear (Matthew 14:25-26). To me, these unexpected horrors could be losing a loved one, getting a terminal diagnosis, getting fired, or other even more difficult experiences. The kinds of things no one expects will happen to them. These experiences mark us for life.

THREE  Through the myriad distractions of life.

After Peter walked on water a bit, he started looking around and began to sink (Matthew 14:29-30). In our 21st-century world, we have more distractions than ever before. Studies show that our constant checking of email, texts, and social media dings on our phones and other devices keep us from being productive on the things that really matter. When we get distracted, we get our eyes off of the prize, and we begin to get discouraged and fearful.

How do we counter the overwhelming fears of life? Through these five habits:

ONE  Pray diligently (before and during the storm).

It’s interesting to me that it seems Jesus was the only one who went away to pray (Matthew 14:23). Consistent, daily prayer during the more mundane times prepares us for stormy weather. This is not about ignoring God when things are quiet and then suddenly crying out to Him when a squall hits. This is about praying during the quiet of an ordinary day, day in and day out. The ones who do this are stronger. They can’t avoid the storms; no one can. And they are not immune to the effects of them. But they can weather them from a place of strength and courage.

TWO  Take courage (don’t be afraid).

When the disciples think they’re seeing a ghost, Jesus immediately says, “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid” (Matthew 14:26-27). How do we “take courage”? To take courage means we have to receive it from someone. We take courage from Christ when we store up His Word in our hearts. We take courage from the positive, godly people we surround ourselves with and run to when needed. We take courage from a loving spouse who knows just what we need to hear.

THREE  Be obedient (do what God says).

When Jesus says, “Come” (Matthew 14:29), we need to come. Be obedient to what God tells you to do. If you’re not sure what that is, go back to what you know. Obey in the dark what you know to be right in the light. God will often call us to do something in faith during these dark times, and we will find courage and conquer fear as we obey Him.

FOUR  Have faith (don’t doubt).

As Jesus catches Peter, He says, “You of little faith . . . why did you doubt?” (Matthew 14:31). When we get overwhelmed by the pressures and distractions of life, it’s easy to begin doubting and losing faith. Our eyes get set on this world that we can easily see instead of the spiritual world that takes faith to see. We need to reset our eyes and reboot our faith by turning to God and His Word.

FIVE  Worship God (thank Him).

At the end of this passage, the boat passengers worship God (Matthew 14:33). After having witnessed what they did, you would have too. During these fearful times, we also need to worship God. Worship Him and thank Him for all He has done. This is easy to do when He answers prayer, but also do it when things are going haywire. There are always things to be thankful for. There’s a gratitude movement going on where folks are challenged to be grateful for three things each day, writing them down in a journal. This is good and right, but as Christians we also recognize that there is a Person to direct our thanks to.

We can’t avoid the storms of life. They rain down on each person. But we can employ these five habits to better manage the storms.

What’s your most effective weapon against fear and the storms of life?

Random thoughts: Gratitude

So grateful to the Lord this week for several things:

  • Grateful that our “anonymous benefactor” has struck again blessing us with cash. Amazing!
  • Grateful that, even though a crown fell out of my head and down the drain, I was able to retrieve it.
  • Grateful that putting the crown back in was quick, painless, and free, even though we don’t have dental insurance now.
  • Grateful that my daughter Jenni, a high school senior, is doing great as a dual-enrolled student at Kennesaw State University.
  • Grateful for encouragement from godly friends, both old and new.
  • Grateful about guidance from the Lord about an opportunity for Cheryl, even if it is a closed door.
  • Grateful for a new month, with new opportunities.
  • Grateful that autumn is inching ever closer.
  • Grateful that Stranger Things was greenlit for a second season on Netflix.
  • Grateful for Stitcher, and for great podcasts.
  • Grateful for God’s Word.
  • Grateful that God fulfills what He promises (2 Chronicles 6:4).
  • Grateful that God gives us discernment about next steps (Psalm 119:105).
  • Grateful that no weapon formed against me will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).
  • Grateful that God hears and answers our prayers (2 Chronicles 7:15).
  • Grateful that no person and no army can stand against me when God is on my side (2 Chronicles 13:18; 14:11).

Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.

—Charles Dickens

What are you grateful for?

You can’t always get what you want…

I asked God for strength, that I might achieve.
I was made weak, that I might learn humbly to obey.

I asked for health, that I might do greater things.
I was given infirmity, that I might do better things.

I asked for riches, that I might be happy.
I was given poverty, that I might be wise.

I asked for power that I might have the praise of men.
I was given weakness, that I might feel the need of God.

I asked for all things, that I might enjoy life.
I was given life, that I might enjoy all things.

I got nothing that I asked for but got everything I had hoped for.
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered.
I am, among all people, most richly blessed.

—A Christian Confederate Soldier’s Prayer (Anonymous—alleged to have been found on a CSA casualty at the Devil’s Den, Gettysburg)

HT: History Addict